2020 has come to an end, and most of us have started thinking about goal-setting. Maybe some of us have already felt that we have failed our goals and have abandoned them altogether.
Right before Christmas, my husband and I took a retreat to plan what we would like to see happen in 2021. We made attainable year-long goals in different categories. We broke them up into how we would start to achieve each goal during the first quarter of the year. We then further outlined what needed to be completed each week, and if applicable, what must be done daily.
We did not stop there, because we needed a way to clarify and track the process toward our goals. We made a weekly meeting time where we know we will not be interrupted, and we committed to making it our top priority. During the meeting, we will review how successful we were during the prior week, where things got in the way, and how we will adjust to a new weekly plan to stay on track.
The most important part of goal-setting is that the goal is achievable and realistic, especially keeping in mind the restrictions of your schedule. If you only have five minutes of time in your week to spend towards achieving your goal, make sure your goal reflects this.
There is nothing more defeating than the sense that we cannot achieve our goals, but that is simply not true. It is all in how you create your goals.
If your goal is weight loss, and you want to lose 20 pounds this year, you will feel defeated on Jan. 30 if you lost only 1.5 pounds. If you look at that 20 pounds to lose this year on a monthly goal of 1.5 pounds, you will feel accomplishment and success. That is why it is important that you can track your goal, and break it up into smaller fragments to show if you are making daily or weekly progress.
Adjusting the approach instead of abandoning your goal is essential. You may not know how to map out your goal initially, but if you are willing to adjust as you go, then you will be able to reach your goal. It is only a failure if you give up.
Reframe your failures. Think about failures as a chance to find a different way to approach a situation. Then they will be learning opportunities, not failures.
Edison said it best when he said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
To attain your goal successfully, you will have small failures, but when you persevere through your failures you will be successful.
Have fun dreaming what you can accomplish in 2021, create your plan, and then act. If you stumble, look at how you are trying to achieve your goal and adjust your approach, but above all else do not give up.
Holly Wright of Bluffton is a Reiki Master, reflexologist, NASM certified personal fitness trainer, and co-owner of Trinity TheraSpa in Moss Creek Village. trinitytheraspa.com