When was the last time you went to a wedding reception and looked to the dance floor only to think, “Oh my gosh! Look at that person. He (or she) cannot dance! He has no rhythm!”
And when was the last time you wouldn’t get out on the dance floor because you were too self-conscious about how you looked dancing?
Ask yourself: What’s really important about dancing, and who is dancing really for? Dancing is for everyone; it just depends how serious you are and to what level you want to take your dancing. That level could be anywhere from social dancing to competitive.
But, believe it or not, there are no bad dancers!
Think about how those supposed “bad dancers” look on the dance floor. Don’t they seem to be the ones who are having the best time at the wedding or the banquet or club? Dancers are almost always smiling, many times laughing. They are usually dancing to every song, and they actually seem to be having the most fun.
Dancing comes from the heart. Social dancing is about people enjoying themselves.
No two people seem to dance the same way. Some have big movements while others might just sway on the dance floor.
Some people might be all over the dance floor while others pretty much stay in one place.
If you take the time to look at each person dancing, maybe no one is really bad – maybe they are all just different. Each person on the dance floor is expressing his or her pleasure in the music in the way they feel it.
A dance floor will generally have a combination of different people with different styles at different levels. For example, you have the “wedding couple” who have worked on only one dance towards one goal: their wedding dance.
Then, you have some who basically come to socialize and just enjoy meeting new people. On the other end of the spectrum you have the competitive dancers who are extreme athletes trying to achieve champion status.
If you really feel you are a bad dancer, it is OK to go to a studio and learn to dance formally, because anyone and everyone can learn to dance. After that first walk through the door and that first dance lesson, everything gets easier.
Surely you have heard the saying “dance like nobody’s watching.” Maybe you should consider lightening up your perspective on other dancers and yourself and really have some fun.
Sandro Virag is a partner and instructor at Hilton Head Ballroom Dance Studio of Hilton Head, located in Bluffton at Seaquins Ballroom. hiltonheadballroom.com