To the Editor:
Has friendship become a passé word in our fast-paced, troubled world?
Webster’s describes a friend this way, “A person on the same side in a struggle.” An ally, supporter, compassionate , empathetic.
My pastor’s recent sermon on Christian friendship caused me to reflect on just how much society has forgotten why friends are important. Historic best-sellers such as Dale Carnegie’s 1936 book “How to Win Friends And Influence People,” John Steinbeck’s 1937 book “Of Mice and Men,” and Carole King’s inspiring lyrics, “You’ve Got a Friend” seem a distant past.
Sure we can sing in church, “What a Friend We Have in Jesus” and read scripture, such as Colossians 3:13, “You must make allowance for others’ faults and forgive the person who offends you,” but then what?
Psychology Today states that strong friendships are a critical aspect of most people’s emotional well-being and associated with greater happiness, self-esteem and sense of purpose. So how do we apply this desirable mentality to our daily lives?
Here is what the professionals suggest: Be there. Listen! Get facts. Determine needs. Make physical contact. Make tough calls.
Here are further suggestions that can also make you a happier friend: Don’t be judgmental. Be respectful, loyal, truthful. Laugh! Walk the walk together.
Finally, as we aspire to be another’s friend, be reminded and encouraged by Mr. Rogers’ famous lines, “Won’t you be my neighbor?” and “I like you just the way you are!”