When folks on the dance floor are having a good time, there’s no such thing as a bad dancer.

Believe it or not, there are no bad dancers.

When was the last time you went to a social function or wedding and looked at the dance floor only to think “Oh, my gosh! Look at that person – they cannot dance, they have no rhythm!”   

And you are probably also thinking, “I won’t get out on the dance floor because I’m too self-conscious about how I look when I’m dancing.” We don’t want others to think we can’t dance.

But think about this: What’s really important about dancing, and who is dancing really for? Dancing is for everyone. It just depends on how serious you are and how far you want to take your dancing. It could be any level from social dancing to competitive ballroom.

Think about how those “bad dancers” look on the dance floor. Don’t they seem to be the ones who are having the best time? They are always smiling, many times laughing.

They are usually dancing the most dances and they actually seem to be having the most fun. 

Remember that dancing comes from the heart. It should be an expression of joy!

Social dancing is about people enjoying themselves. No two people seem to dance the same way. Some have big movements while others might just sway on the dance floor. Some people might be all over the dance floor while others pretty much stay in one place.

If you really take the time to look at each person, maybe no one is really bad, maybe they are all just different. Each person on the dance floor is expressing their pleasure in the music in the way they feel it.

A dance floor will always have a combination of people with different styles at different levels. For example, you have the “wedding couple” who have worked on only one dance towards their wedding dance goal. Then you have some who basically come to socialize and just enjoy meeting new people. On the other end of the spectrum you have the competitive dancers who are extreme athletes trying to achieve champion status.

If you really feel you are a bad dancer, it is OK to go and learn to dance formally because anyone and everyone can learn to dance. After that first walk through the door and that first dance lesson, everything gets easier.

Surely you have heard the saying “Dance like nobody’s watching.” Maybe you should consider lightening up your perspective on other dancers and on yourself and really have some fun. Get out there and dance!

Sandro Virag is a partner and instructor at Hilton Head Ballroom Dance Studio of Hilton Head, located in Bluffton at Seaquins Ballroom. hiltonheadballroom.com